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Ruffnekwife87
I feel stupid for posting, thinking or even talking about this but… (little bit more info)
October 11, 2012 at 11:49 PM
• Do not comment if you are going to be rude, judgmental, bitchy, or in anyway shape or form an asshole about the situation, me or my DH. 



• No I do not have family to turn to about this

• No I do not have any friends to turn to 



• This is the only place I can go to vent, rant, rave and express how I feel.

• Here is the only place I can freely express with out being scared of anything. 



So… today is my 10-11-12 birthday! My DH has told me about a million time happy birthday because he feels bad about not being able to be here. Well we had a plan to go out to celebrate on the 20th but like every year something else happens to put a stop to that. (I have never had a birthday party or even celebrated my birthday EVER) DH and I have been together for 3yrs the 1st yr I was pregnant, the 2nd year he was at work, this year well this one pisses me off the most… he will forget because on 10-10-10 my DHs ex fiancés 19yr old son killed himself.  Now she is coming here that weekend and well yet again I am nothin to anyone. I don't mean to be selfish or sound selfish after 18 year (I'm only 25) I should be use to everyone forgetting my birthday by now but I'm not every year I'm hurt that no one remembers. And it does not help that my DHs aunt turned 48 today either. 



I don't know I guess it's just my pitty party and I know it's selfish but this is the first time I have her said anything about how I feel when it comes to this. Usually I just keep my mouth shut and go on with my day as though nothing even happened. I feel stupid for even talking about it or even caring after all these years I guess. 



Oh and my DH has been saying happy birthday to me all day a million times because he feels bad for not being here this year either he said. (He is at work) 

I'm not mad at my DH he set a reminder on his phone and that's to be expected because he has a really hard job and is away for so long. It's not about the gifts last month my DH bought me a new car for my birthday! It's the fact that no one acknowledged the fact it was my birthday even when FB tells people. Not even my own mother wished me happy birthday ):

Replies

  • Mrs.Tirado
    October 12, 2012 at 12:00 AM
    I have no friends to vent to either. It sucks. Hey lets be friends. Happy birthday!
  • GatorsWife4Life
    October 12, 2012 at 12:03 AM
    I didn't get to do anything for my birthday and it's like that every year. I'm 30 and it doesn't bother me.
  • Ruffnekwife87
    October 12, 2012 at 12:03 AM
    No because when I left state to start over everyone stopped talking to me.


    Quoting Mrs.Tirado:

    I have no friends to vent to either. It sucks. Hey lets be friends. Happy birthday!

  • henzel3
    by henzel3
    October 12, 2012 at 12:03 AM
    Happy birthday and you can vent,rant or rave anytime. I can understand how you feel I have never celebrated mine either and it does hurt.
  • Ruffnekwife87
    October 12, 2012 at 12:05 AM
    I have not done anything nor gotten recognition that's it's my birthday since I was 7


    Quoting GatorsWife4Life:

    I didn't get to do anything for my birthday and it's like that every year. I'm 30 and it doesn't bother me.

  • Thewife06
    October 12, 2012 at 12:15 AM

    My husband & I share a birthday.  He's a whole whopping year older than me. 

    Last year, his co workers and the spouses got this huge party put together for him & kept it from us both.  It took all I had not to cry during the entire party since so many of them are friends with both of us and forgot that my birthday was the same day.  When I hang out with people almost every week and we do birthday parties for everyone, yeah, I expect my birthday to be remembered along with my husband's.  That kind of crap absolutely sucks.  Talk about feeling low. 

    The purse & shoes I bought myself for my birthday later that night made me feel better though. 

  • Mrs.Tirado
    October 12, 2012 at 12:17 AM
    I told a my two ex best friends how i felt and they got mad at me and stopped talking to me. Lol. Maybe u should try doing something for yourself on every birthday. Like do your nails and hair. That might make u feel better.


    Quoting Ruffnekwife87:

    No because when I left state to start over everyone stopped talking to me.




    Quoting Mrs.Tirado:

    I have no friends to vent to either. It sucks. Hey lets be friends. Happy birthday!


  • Jess0915
    October 12, 2012 at 12:18 AM

    I know how you feel, my DH was in training on my bday the first year we were together, then second year he was deployed, third year he was working 3 hours away from home and couldn't come home. Fourth year, I don't remember, but I think we did something like dinner. Fifth year was this year and he was in Texas, and I'm in MO. The girls and I just moved here in August and he had to go back to TX. He came for our DD's 2nd bday on Sept 9th, but that's a week after my bday, so he missed it. It's a bummer. 

    You should definitely tell him how you feel though, let him know you feel unspecial. It's important. Even if a date night is all you get, at least you have a day to feel special.

  • la_bella_vita
    October 12, 2012 at 12:20 AM
    Happy birthday!
  • Ruffnekwife87
    October 12, 2012 at 12:28 AM
    I dont want him to think I am being selfish or anything. I mean I have never made a big deal of my birthday because I was never able to celebrate or make a big deal of it and now that I am 25 it would seem kind of childish and stupid. Plus he did say happy birthday 500+ times today. I'm just scared and feel stupid about it


    Quoting Jess0915:

    I know how you feel, my DH was in training on my bday the first year we were together, then second year he was deployed, third year he was working 3 hours away from home and couldn't come home. Fourth year, I don't remember, but I think we did something like dinner. Fifth year was this year and he was in Texas, and I'm in MO. The girls and I just moved here in August and he had to go back to TX. He came for our DD's 2nd bday on Sept 9th, but that's a week after my bday, so he missed it. It's a bummer. 

    You should definitely tell him how you feel though, let him know you feel unspecial. It's important. Even if a date night is all you get, at least you have a day to feel special.


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