My husband and I went through this. While we were dating, he left right after we started discussing marriage. We were seperated for three years. At first, I was angry at him, I wanted to hate him. But I still had feelings for him. We finally met back up in 2008 and decided to give us another shot. I still have some issues with the past but try to move past it.
It is hard to gain trust back. I am still afraid of being hurt. It will just take some time. I don't know how long, my DH and I have been married for three years now, together this time for four and I still have problems. And I know my DH regrets leaving and he has owned up to his mistakes. It's just hard to give someone your whole heart.
October 10, 2012 at 6:37 PM
Time, patience and repeatedly showing that you can be trusted.
The best way you can show you regret it, is by living and treating him in a manner that shows that you want to be with him, that you love him, that you are doing everything you can to help rebuild your relationship. You have to completely earn all over again the trust that was once given to you.