Love & Marriage

VidaLove
Am I Really In The Wrong!?
October 8, 2012 at 11:32 AM

Okay so it's like this...SO & I don't live together yet. I was up about 9:15 reorganizing my closet & putting clothes away when I called him to say goodnight...We made it a routine where we always call at 9 to say goodnight because that's when we both go to sleep. I told him I would be going to sleep soon after I finish my closet & putting my clothes away. After we hung up, I started moving elsewhere in my room, picking up, cleaning my room. At 10:45 I finally lay down & I get a Facebook notification from my cousin, he's a guy, he commented on a pic of me that my SO posted on my profile. I responded back to his comment & about 1 min. later my SO texts asking if I'm still up. He got the notifcation from Facebook too after I responded back to my cousin. I explain to him that I ended cleaning the rest of my room. He said I must lie to him alot...he's talking about me saying I'll be going to sleep soon after I'm done with my closet & I didn't. That's all he text lastnight.

So this morning I text him saying good morning & asked if he was still upset. He texted back saying "I'm not upset. Can't change how you present yourself. O well, gonna make it not bother me anymore." And that was it.

Does this make me a liar!? Is this really a big deal because to him it is & I just don't see it. What should I do? It bothers me that he thinks I'm a liar.

Replies

  • catrig
    by catrig
    October 8, 2012 at 12:18 PM

    That's ridiculous.  If I say I'm going to use the restroom and go to bed does it make me a shady person if I decide to get a glass of water?

  • VidaLove
    October 8, 2012 at 12:21 PM

    Exactly what I think...really ridiculous

    Quoting catrig:

    That's ridiculous.  If I say I'm going to use the restroom and go to bed does it make me a shady person if I decide to get a glass of water?


  • rockinmomto2
    October 8, 2012 at 12:42 PM

    He can be all those things, but if he's constantly thinking you're going to cheat on him, that's going to put a massive strain on your relationship. And honestly, if you already have kidS together but aren't living together, that's a huge red flag. I personally wouldn't stay in that kind of relationship. It's not healthy.

    Quoting VidaLove:

    I know this can make him come off as controlling but he's really not that type of person. He's the most sweetest, compassionate, caring man that I have ever met. I love him very much & hold  high respect for him. He takes care of me & our kids. He's also very responsible...I do think that his reaction can be stemming from a past experience.

    Quoting rockinmomto2:

    Um...he sounds like a controlling prick. Is that really the kind of relationship you want to have?



  • Celtic_Dragon
    October 8, 2012 at 12:56 PM

    So glad I don't have "Facebook" drama. :(

  • VidaLove
    October 8, 2012 at 1:48 PM

    We are a combined family. I have two boys of my own & he has 4 of his own. We have none together. I get what you're saying & thanks for your advice :)

    Quoting rockinmomto2:

    He can be all those things, but if he's constantly thinking you're going to cheat on him, that's going to put a massive strain on your relationship. And honestly, if you already have kidS together but aren't living together, that's a huge red flag. I personally wouldn't stay in that kind of relationship. It's not healthy.

    Quoting VidaLove:

    I know this can make him come off as controlling but he's really not that type of person. He's the most sweetest, compassionate, caring man that I have ever met. I love him very much & hold  high respect for him. He takes care of me & our kids. He's also very responsible...I do think that his reaction can be stemming from a past experience.

    Quoting rockinmomto2:

    Um...he sounds like a controlling prick. Is that really the kind of relationship you want to have?

     



  • Megan11587
    October 8, 2012 at 1:51 PM

     Sounds a little controlling to me...

  • Megan11587
    October 8, 2012 at 1:52 PM

     Wait a second...didn't he tell you he was going to bed at 9, too??

  • LaughingTattoo
    October 8, 2012 at 1:52 PM

    Sounds likes hes butt hurt lol.

  • VidaLove
    October 8, 2012 at 1:53 PM

    lol...yea he did...i called him out on it too, he said the Facebook notification woke him up. yeah right!

    Quoting Megan11587:

     Wait a second...didn't he tell you he was going to bed at 9, too??


  • mommie_x0x
    October 8, 2012 at 1:54 PM
    Why was HE up... Didn't you say you both go to bed at 9..

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