Update- I am still reading the book and I am up to day 9 on the dares. This book has opened my eyes and I have learned so much. For the first time in weeks my husband invited my to lunch to talk. We talked for several hours and I found out that he thinks I am unhappy. I am not unhappy just kind of in a rut. I am getting a part time job and I am getting more involved in our church. I have also dealt with depression and I saw my Dr two weeks ago and I have been on medication since then. I can tell a difference and in a good way. Thank you again for the kind thoughts, prayers and encouragement!
October 7, 2012 at 3:37 PM
We seen the movie (even though we liked the movie Courageous better). We have a great marriage so didntdo the dare.
If you reading the book and doing the dare doesnt work, maybe if he is willing to go you two could go on a marriage encounter weekend (google it for your area) I know people who went and raved on and on about how fun and special and helpful and meaningful and dramatically it changed and helped them. They said its romantic and while you work on your marriage on the weekend, its romantic and has special and fun moments too. Everyone I know who has gone cant say enough good stuff about it.
by DJMOMOF2October 7, 2012 at 3:43 PMWhat a terrible thing to say! I normally keep stuff to myself but geez yeah dump your husband and leave your kid great advice your why society is the way it is!!!!!!
Please, I did the 4 day-thing. Shit went down on a Tuesday and I told him you have until Saturday (4days) to move out anything left after that is going to my yard sale. He's not into you no mo'. Just let him go. As a matter of fact leave your son with him and let your EX take care of him. ((your prolly a SAHM, so my guess is you are sticking it out, cuz you have no place to go or life experience (job, skool, etc).
by DJMOMOF2October 7, 2012 at 3:44 PMI hope it works for you! Good luck girl!
by TxBrandiOctober 8, 2012 at 10:02 PM
My husband and I have been happily married for 15 years. I've never read the book and vaguely remember watching the movie, but we always strive to say nice things and do nice things for each other. Yes, sometimes marriage gets old, but i believe in "fake it till you make it". When you do and say nice things, you can actually start to feel better towards each other. One of the most basic relationship survival skills is to remember that everyone wants to feel special and desirable. Everyone likes to be complimented, and no one likes to be talked to like a dog or ordered around r even griped at (even if they do things that make you mad, there are ways to go about discussing it). We have so many friends over the years who have gotten divorced and with each of the couples, I can recall how they treated each other -it's no wonder they were divorced. There is a way to communicate what you would like or what you need without being hateful or bitchy -they didn't seem to know how to do this at all, much less do anything nice for each other (other than birthdays or holidays).
Good for you for taking an active approach. I will pray for you that it works!
by LOVES67October 9, 2012 at 11:04 AM
I wish you the best of Luck, and yes I seen the Movie and liked it let us know if it work for you I might try that too..
by haysydOctober 12, 2012 at 6:30 PMBump for update!
by the.real.meOctober 18, 2012 at 12:40 PM
yay!! keep it up!