Love & Marriage
Sooo... ive always had feelings for this guys.. we've been "talking" for 5 yrs but we were never nothing official, now I'm 5mo prego w his baby. we still talk n try to stay friends -like what we were before i got pregnant, but he doesn't want anything to do with the kid. He already has kids n says he would love to be around for My lil one but he genuinely can't. hes super confused n drags me along w him plus he's always busy n doesn't really make time for me. should i even bother staying friends w the guy? It wasn't planned so i don't hold anything against him plus I still have feelings for him n it'd be nice to have that someone around even as friends or whatever ... :/ help
Replies
-
No. just tell him that if he can't be there for both of you then he just needs to go away. -
It wasn't planned, so you're going to have to do it all on your own???
Since when did you knock yourself up?
You sound very sweet hun.... But dont let that turn you into an idiot.
He sounds pathetic. He may not have time for you, but make it very clear that he WILL make time for his child....
This isn't all about you and him. -
You know, I read this once n I just remembered it.. "Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.” -I can totally relate to that.
Thanks for that you guys.. guess i already know what i have to do. -
Is he married? -
I was exactly in your situation, Do not keep this man around if he is unsure of what he wants or what to do. All thats going to happen is alot of hurt feelings on your part. Give him a time period and tell him he HAS to figure out what he wants. If he doesnt do what you think he needs to do, let him go.
-
He doesn't make time for you and wants nothing to do with his kid. You know the answer already. Drop him. -
I think for your own sanity you should move on.
-
No his not
Quoting unsuspected:
Is he married?
-
It wasn't planned but it wasn't prevented so the not holding it against him excuse is bs. Too bad! he had a part in the making of this baby too. It's a damn shame yet another child is going to grow up without a parent because they weren't "planned". -
Quoting olivejuice2:
He doesn't make time for you and wants nothing to do with his kid. You know the answer already. Drop him.