Love & Marriage
Hi Ladies,
As a future Social Worker, I felt it would be good to have a post in the Love and Marriage group that has information about the different types of abuse - and yes, there is more than just physical abuse. I have listed some links below, and I hope that everyone will add more resources and /or stories so that we can keep it on top as a primary resource. Feel free to include resources and information about abuse within an adult relationship, child abuse/neglect, and elder abuse. It's not a fun topic, but I think it's vital that we have these resources available!
Here are a few links to get us started:
http://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/types-of-abuse
http://www.asafeplacenh.org/abuse_types.html (be sure to donload the brochure!)
http://suite101.com/article/different-types-of-abuse-in-love-relationships-a12723
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/child_abuse_physical_emotional_sexual_neglect.htm
http://alzheimers.about.com/od/advocates/a/6_types_abuse.htm
Here's a link to a post in the Babies group for more info about domestic violence: http://www.cafemom.com/group/babies/forums/read/17029403/Dv_info?last#last
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Perhaps the administrator can lock this post at the top so we don't have to continually bump it.
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Thank you... in my first marriage (if thats what you want to call it ughhh) of 16 yrs I was abused and didnt realize it for a long time. I also kept thinking I could fix him and that if I couldnt "I" was a failure and felt guilty and had to try harder ... I regret marrying him and I regret not leaving him much much sooner ... it was sooo shocking and so sad when of my 4 kids my two young teens (the oldest 2 ASKED me t leave him)I had thought my kidswould hate me if I left their dad, plus I had no money nowhere to go and no employability skills, they told me they didnt care, they said even living in a shelter would be better .... I left him within 1 hour of them confronting me that way and it was the best thing I ever did.... me and all the kids went thru 2 years of intense poverty once I left but we were close knit and a team and then our lives became better than we'd ever hoped and dreamed and we've been beyond happy ever since. : D
Sometimes divorce is a blessing and NOT a bad thing!
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I'm so sorry you had to go through that, but so happy that you left and now have a much better life! What would we do without the love of our children? :)
Quoting earthangel1967:
Thank you... in my first marriage (if thats what you want to call it ughhh) of 16 yrs I was abused and didnt realize it for a long time. I also kept thinking I could fix him and that if I couldnt "I" was a failure and felt guilty and had to try harder ... I regret marrying him and I regret not leaving him much much sooner ... it was sooo shocking and so sad when of my 4 kids my two young teens (the oldest 2 ASKED me t leave him)I had thought my kidswould hate me if I left their dad, plus I had no money nowhere to go and no employability skills, they told me they didnt care, they said even living in a shelter would be better .... I left him within 1 hour of them confronting me that way and it was the best thing I ever did.... me and all the kids went thru 2 years of intense poverty once I left but we were close knit and a team and then our lives became better than we'd ever hoped and dreamed and we've been beyond happy ever since. : D
Sometimes divorce is a blessing and NOT a bad thing!
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Thank you for sharing!
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Thanks for sharing!
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Quoting aimesnyc:
I'm so sorry you had to go through that, but so happy that you left and now have a much better life! What would we do without the love of our children? :)
Quoting earthangel1967:
Thank you... in my first marriage (if thats what you want to call it ughhh) of 16 yrs I was abused and didnt realize it for a long time. I also kept thinking I could fix him and that if I couldnt "I" was a failure and felt guilty and had to try harder ... I regret marrying him and I regret not leaving him much much sooner ... it was sooo shocking and so sad when of my 4 kids my two young teens (the oldest 2 ASKED me t leave him)I had thought my kidswould hate me if I left their dad, plus I had no money nowhere to go and no employability skills, they told me they didnt care, they said even living in a shelter would be better .... I left him within 1 hour of them confronting me that way and it was the best thing I ever did.... me and all the kids went thru 2 years of intense poverty once I left but we were close knit and a team and then our lives became better than we'd ever hoped and dreamed and we've been beyond happy ever since. : D
Sometimes divorce is a blessing and NOT a bad thing!
awww thank you hugs. I am so lucky to have such awesome kids (they are all young adults now ) and I am also grateful that 2 yrs after my divorce I to my utter shock met the love of my life, my bff, my soulmate (didnt believe in soulamtes until we met honestly) and he had full custody of a 9 yr old daughter that I love as my own and he loved my 4 s his own and we finished raising them all together and are very close knit and I am soooo grateful the kids all got to see an example of a beautiful healthy fulfilling marriage now too.....Because our 5 kids saw first hand both of us have bad marriages and our mistakes and also an exceptionally good marriage that we have together now all 5 of them 2 boys 17 and 25 and 3 girls ages 18 20 and 23 have very high standards and dont rush things in relationships and dont want relationships where they feel they have to "fix someone or save them" we are so grateful they have learned such important life lessons thru us instead of making those mistakes directly themselves. We taught them thru example with our current marriage to never settle for less than your personal best... life is too precious and too short AND you are a role model of what marriage should look like for your kids like it or not.
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