As a future Social Worker, I felt it would be good to have a post in the Love and Marriage group that has information about the different types of abuse - and yes, there is more than just physical abuse. I have listed some links below, and I hope that everyone will add more resources and /or stories so that we can keep it on top as a primary resource. Feel free to include resources and information about abuse within an adult relationship, child abuse/neglect, and elder abuse. It's not a fun topic, but I think it's vital that we have these resources available!
I went from one abusive relationship (emotional/verbal) right into the next (full gambit) I wad so ashamed of "failing" my first marriage that I let this man break me. I was in denial so deep I couldn't see that what he was doing to me was affecting my child. It is my greatest shame, that I let my boy see me get knocked around and stepped on and let him be hurt. When I came home from work and my little guy put himself in time out and started choking himself saying "I bad, I bad" ... that was it. I tried to kill my ex with my bare hands, or roommate had to sit on me while my ex sped off. Years of therapy, an amazing husband/step-dad later and we are like new. I will never let anyone, ANYONE, do that to my children or myself again.
They drag you in with sweet words and heat and by the time you start to notice something is wrong they have you wrapped. I thought I was crazy half the time. He could talk me into knots so by the end I was apologizing to him for making him strike me.
In my first marriage (if you can call it that) he had so much control over me. At first he taught me to stand up to my mother and he tried to come between that relationship as well as my friends too. He made me feel like I could not do anything and that I could not accomplish anything on my own.
He also never touched me which is why I don't know if you can call it a marriage in the first place except to say that I stayed for 15 years hoping