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Any help.... my bf is large and i want to do anal and we have tried but it hurts a lot anyone have any tips besides using lube to help?
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I've used baby oil, he has given me oral to "get the juices flowing" so to speak. Also have him go slow, dont just ram it in there. Also keep yourself relaxed. My guy is big too, and these ideas are the only way we've had any success at all. -
You have to be relaxed. My guy will start by massaging me starting with my back and working down. I would feel totally relaxed. And definitely take it slow. You have to be calm and want it. Also, as he goes in you have to kind of push, like if you had to poop, (i know yuck) but that push helps to open up and spreads the muscles so it may be easier to take it in. Crazy but it works!
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Go slow, the post above is correct. My hubby is big too, the more you do it the easier it gets.
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well we have tried again and i screamed. we went slow and used lube... I have another question any position better or easier?
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Maybe start with a finger or get a toy to help you get used to it. Start with something smaller and have him use it on you a few times so you can adjust. That is how I started when we wanted to try anal. I have a double penetration toy that really helped me get used to something going into my ass. It is uncomfortable at first but I swear the more lube the better, we usually have to change sheets cause we use so much. It takes time and baby steps. Also, I usually lay on my stomach with a pillow under my hips. Make sure you or he stimulates your clit to keep you wet and feeling good too. If he wont use the toy on you find the time and do it your self so you can get used to it and surprise him!
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I have a question about this....is it a good idea to do an enama before anal? If so how much beforehand should it be done?
I am getting better at enjoying it, my guy lovvvesss it so I want to give him pleasure. I think I orgasmed... -
Anal should never hurt, so stop immediately if it does. Use more lube than you think is necessary and start by letting him use his finger or toy to help your relax and enjoy it. If you need to you can use something like anal ease to help but I would use very little because you don't want your anus to be completely numb (in case you tear or it hurts, you want to be aware of that). Relaxxx. Let him go in inch by inch. The position is also important, make sure your in control of how fast and deep its going. Spooning or Cow Girl is a good way to start. I would stay away from doggie style until your used to it.
If it still feels like too much they make male masturbation sleeves that you can fold in half (passion parties makes good ones) that act as a "bumper" so it will still feel like hes going in all the way.
And if at first you don't like it, try try again because once you get it right it can be realllly enjoyable. ;D
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I don't think its really necessary to have an enema unless you want to... You could easily just take a shower/bath and slip your finger in there and wash with water... Also if you go to the bathroom completely before you wash you should be just fine.
Quoting BekahBrownEyes:
I have a question about this....is it a good idea to do an enama before anal? If so how much beforehand should it be done?
I am getting better at enjoying it, my guy lovvvesss it so I want to give him pleasure. I think I orgasmed... -
I really enjoy anal in missionary position. In this position his pubic hairs can rub your clit and stimulate it. Focus on that good feeling of the clit and try to relax. Use a lot of lube. It takes a lot of practice and playing with that hole to get it stretched out and for it not to hurt as much. In the beginning when we would do it I would have to be very very drunk. That action is a very sobering action. So the alcohol helped me relax. Then after he would be in, I would be in control of how fast we went. Make him be very still and you work the movement. Don't worry about his enjoyment, because trust me he is enjoying it no matter how fast you move. But as far as actual enjoyment on your part, i find that missionary is best because of the added stimulation.
Quoting thorcaidenbella:
well we have tried again and i screamed. we went slow and used lube... I have another question any position better or easier?
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i really like it anal too....he is quite big...we did first with a finger then with a small dildo and so i got more used to, now it is easy and i realy enjoy it....it just takes time to get used to