Have you ever felt as if happiness is something that you have to wait to come to you?
Do you ever wonder why other people are happy, and you’re not?
The good news is that being happy is more of a choice than you might think.
Happiness doesn’t have to be an elusive idea that only some fortunate
people are able to obtain. Here are seven simple things you can do to
increase your happiness.
Remember the last time you felt peaceful. Think
about where you were, whom you were with, and what was around you.
Remember the sounds, the feelings and the scents that surrounded you.
What was the light like? Was there a breeze? Try and re-experience that
feeling for a minute.
Say one kind word or do one kind action to/for the
next person you meet. It could be sincerely wishing them a nice
afternoon or paying the bill for the person behind you at Starbucks. It
could even be a kind word to yourself.
Hold your tongue. The next time you get angry or
frustrated don’t react. Give yourself space to calm down before doing or
saying something you will later regret. This may not cause happiness in
the moment, but when you calm down, you’ll feel good about not saying
or doing something out of anger.
Step outside. Being cooped up all day, especially
in artificial lighting, can bring down people’s moods. Even if it is
freezing and snowing or hot and humid, spending time outdoors can make
you feel better.
Catch someone doing something good. Try and see an
act of kindness. Maybe it’s a neighbor playing with his dog, or a
stranger holding the door open for a child. Look for the good in the
world, and you’ll see it. You’ll also be happier because you noticed.
Have positive physical contact with someone. And
this doesn’t mean sex necessarily, although sexual intimacy is a great
way to increase ‘feel good’ hormones. Cradling a baby, hugging a friend,
or holding a lover’s hand can all make you feel happier.
Love an animal. As I write this, I have one bird on
my head, one bird on my shoulder, and a snoozing Boxer next to me on
the couch. Every time you interact with an animal in a loving manner,
you’ll feel calmer and happier. Animals can be a great source of peace
and unconditional love.
Everyone is different, and some people are simply born with a happier
disposition than others. Everyone reacts to various stresses
differently.The above ideas won’t change your entire outlook on life,
but they will bring a bit of light into your world.
Nice. No. 1 is something I try to do every night before bed right before I drift off. No. 3 needs work. Sometimes I think I gobble up too much precious time "venting" my discomfort at inopportune times.
I'm glad you ladies like this. I didn't want to post this article and have people think that I think one can just snap out of it, but there are things that can help.
For me, remembering a time of peace and making peace in my life helps immesely, doing a random act of kindness benefits more than just the person doing it, and I've noticed when DH and I aren't physical (hugging kissing sitting together) because we are stressed that it takes its toll on me