Parenting Positive Kids

Carmen S
Back, Back, Back to School!
August 15, 2012 at 12:00 AM

All over the United States, families are immersed in that "Most Wonderful Time of the Year" - Back to School. Moms everywhere are busy scooping up back packs and glue sticks, sharpening pencils and locating long ignored sneakers. Lines are drawn left and right through school supply lists. Lamentations have been heard for the reality of the high cost of higher math calculators. Closets are freshly scoured, jeans replenished and, everywhere, the countdown has begun.

Nerves may have also come to visit in your house.

Maybe your child had a difficult school year last year. Maybe there was bullying, or a teacher who was less than stellar. It's possible that your child was the bully, and he has a fresh desire to start this year off differently. It's quite possible that your child isn't so nervous about the "reading, 'riting, and 'rithmetic" - but her nerves are in shambles about the friendship aspect of school.

How do you make sure your child feels encouraged and emotionally prepared to return to school?

  • Discuss - Half of the foundation of a nervous attitude is fear of the unknown. So talk about those areas of concern. Is your child afraid of being bullied at PE? Talk about how things have been handled in the past and how your child can help them be resolved differently this year. Even if it seems like a trite matter, it's as important as the world to your child; so take the time to listen.
  • Role Play - Practice doesn't Make Perfect - Practice Makes Habit. Have your child show you how he reacted in the past, and work out scenarios to practice a better reaction.
  • Get Involved - Be present for your child at home, and make sure that he knows you are there at any time. Ask leading questions, those questions that can't be answered with a yes or no. If your schedule allows, be present in the school - volunteer. Find times that you can discuss the areas of concern with your child in a non aggressive matter; perhaps a car ride or while cooking dinner.
  • Involve others - Make sure that the others involved in your child's education - teachers, aides and the like - are aware of the areas with which your child is nervous.
  • Focus on the positive - Ask your child: What are some of the things your child is excited about for the upcoming school year? Take the time to create a list of those great things, and if a negative thought comes out to play, remind your child of the good stuff.
  • Put on a happy face - Above all, be encouraging. Your child will take her cues from you, and if you continually obsess and focus on the negative, it will teach your child that the very things she worries about are really and truly "big things". Talk about the goals that you have for your child, and ask what your child would like to accomplish, and set concrete steps to succeed with those desires.

Have you ever had to deal with a situation that makes your child nervous when he is going back to school? How did you handle it? Maybe it was you who was nervous as a youngster - how did your parents respond?

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Replies

  • mysticalmalissa
    August 15, 2012 at 5:37 AM

    My older sons were always eager to get back to school as was I as a child.

    My youngest is more then ready to go, but he may have to wait another year.

  • mallowcup17
    August 15, 2012 at 8:11 AM

    good tips. my oldest enjoys school a lot and our youngest is very excited to be starting soon. hopefully this attitude keeps with both of them

  • hunterskysmom
    August 15, 2012 at 8:20 AM
    My dd is shy at first but once she gets use to you she is fine but of course she is only 2
  • lalasmama2007
    August 15, 2012 at 9:25 AM
    My dd is starting kindergarten this year and she's very excited to go. As a child I always liked going back to school.
  • goddess99
    August 15, 2012 at 9:30 AM

    We talk about it alot. For the last couple years my dd had an aide with her, this year she is going to a new school with no aide but she's excited. We pick up her schedule next week and we will walk around the school a few times so she knows where her class is and we'll move into her locker, and talk some more.

  • ceciliam
    August 15, 2012 at 9:45 AM

    My son is only going into 1st grade and he is not nervous.

  • .Angelica.
    August 15, 2012 at 10:20 AM

    my son hasn't started school yet but has said he doesn't want to turn 5 because he doesn't want to go to school so we'll see how it goes next year

  • Madelaine
    August 15, 2012 at 10:25 AM

    They were happy to go back!

  • Bmat
    by Bmat
    August 15, 2012 at 10:33 AM

    I didn't tell my parents that I was nervous.  For the first school experience for my children,  we talked about what to expect.

  • sukainah
    August 15, 2012 at 11:22 AM

    My son didn't like school at all last year and he did not want to start this year either.  But his first day seemed to go good.  These tips are very good too.  I've always had his teacher's email so I can just communicate with her quickly and not have to worry about the kids being around so I can focus on what I need to say.  I hope this year will go better.

    When I was little, I did have a year where there were a few bullies I had to deal with and my parents discussed it with the teacher because my grades were suffering.

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