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MomofBoys838
Please Help!! I think my son has an eating disorder!
July 26, 2013 at 4:58 PM

I'm not sure how to approach this, and I know it is rare for boys to have eating disorders, but I'm at my wit's end with knowing how to help him.  He thinks about food all the time and exercises about three hours a day.  He has lost a lot of weight and is at a healthy weight right now, but he is getting overly worried because he's gained a few pounds over the summer.

I've got to wonder if his dad's illness is a factor in bringing this out.  Any advice is appreciated!

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  • FindersKeepers
    July 26, 2013 at 5:06 PM

    Get him help.  The 13yo son of one of my friends has an eating disorder and his family is in complete denial.    The kid had to be HOSPITALIZED for 2 weeks for it and his family still denies that there is any problem saying he is "just athletic" ect.  

    There could be a lot of underlying causes and it would not be helpful for me to speculate why.  Take him to a specialist and let him talk about it.   Kids are hormonal and emotional... an eating disorder could be caused by a big thing or something small.  If his dad is ill, that could be a factor since the ability to control something when life is out of control is a common factor.

    Best wishes to you and your family

  • KW1280
    by KW1280
    July 26, 2013 at 5:10 PM
    If you feel something is wrong then take him to a nutritionist. That is a start they then may refer him to a counseling facility. There are all kinds of stressors and pressures put on kids. They have to look like this, be a part of the in crowd and other things. We, as parents, have to reassure and be there. I know that you will do what is best for your child hugs momma
  • KW1280
    by KW1280
    July 26, 2013 at 5:16 PM
    My friend had a heart attack because of her ED she was 21 @ the time. She is now 40 and is doing well


    Quoting FindersKeepers:

    Get him help.  The 13yo son of one of my friends has an eating disorder and his family is in complete denial.    The kid had to be HOSPITALIZED for 2 weeks for it and his family still denies that there is any problem saying he is "just athletic" ect.  


    There could be a lot of underlying causes and it would not be helpful for me to speculate why.  Take him to a specialist and let him talk about it.   Kids are hormonal and emotional... an eating disorder could be caused by a big thing or something small.  If his dad is ill, that could be a factor since the ability to control something when life is out of control is a common factor.


    Best wishes to you and your family


  • atlmom2
    by atlmom2
    July 26, 2013 at 6:53 PM
    It is not as rare as you think. He needs counseling asap. It is a mental disorder.
  • bexsmum
    by bexsmum
    July 26, 2013 at 7:01 PM

    Call his family Dr and get him in ASAP. They can set up an appointment with professionals  the deal with eating disorders. It is a mental health issue and he needs help and counselling. It is a long haul and not an easy one. Been there done that still living it with DD in recovering an not having triggered for 13 months.

    If you need anyone to vent to just drop me a line. I feel your pain and its a long hard road to recovery.

  • MomofBoys838
    July 26, 2013 at 10:14 PM

    Oh, no...I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's son.  I hope he gets the help he needs as well.

    I am thinking it has a lot to do with his dad.  He's a heart patient and has been very sick the past two years, and is going through some tough stuff right now with a horrible, chronic cough...it's very stressful to hear him.  I can also see where it is two-fold:  the exercising and losing weight so that the same thing doesn't happen to him, as happened to his dad, plus using it all as a way to control something.

    Thank you for your help!

    Quoting FindersKeepers:

    Get him help.  The 13yo son of one of my friends has an eating disorder and his family is in complete denial.    The kid had to be HOSPITALIZED for 2 weeks for it and his family still denies that there is any problem saying he is "just athletic" ect.  

    There could be a lot of underlying causes and it would not be helpful for me to speculate why.  Take him to a specialist and let him talk about it.   Kids are hormonal and emotional... an eating disorder could be caused by a big thing or something small.  If his dad is ill, that could be a factor since the ability to control something when life is out of control is a common factor.

    Best wishes to you and your family


  • MomofBoys838
    July 26, 2013 at 10:21 PM

    Thank you, we do have an appointment with a nutritionist for my husband, so we can do that for my son, too.  You're so right, kids have so many more serious pressures that we did.  I love him so much and don't want to see him going through this.

    I'm glad your friend is doing well...wow, a heart attack so young!  I can see where the condition would put tremendous stress on the heart.  Thanks for sharing.  Hugs to you, too.

    Quoting KW1280:

    If you feel something is wrong then take him to a nutritionist. That is a start they then may refer him to a counseling facility. There are all kinds of stressors and pressures put on kids. They have to look like this, be a part of the in crowd and other things. We, as parents, have to reassure and be there. I know that you will do what is best for your child hugs momma


  • MomofBoys838
    July 26, 2013 at 10:23 PM

    Thank you for your advice...we do have a history of depression/anxiety in my family.

    Quoting atlmom2:

    It is not as rare as you think. He needs counseling asap. It is a mental disorder.


  • MomofBoys838
    July 26, 2013 at 10:27 PM

    Thank you for your advice.  I'm sorry that you're having to go through this with your DD.  I'm so glad she's recovering.  Thank you, I will definitely get in touch.

    Quoting bexsmum:

    Call his family Dr and get him in ASAP. They can set up an appointment with professionals  the deal with eating disorders. It is a mental health issue and he needs help and counselling. It is a long haul and not an easy one. Been there done that still living it with DD in recovering an not having triggered for 13 months.

    If you need anyone to vent to just drop me a line. I feel your pain and its a long hard road to recovery.


  • bizzeemom2717
    Jen
    July 27, 2013 at 2:28 AM
    It's not as rare as you think with bots just not talked about as often. I would be very concerned. Glad you have an upcoming appt.

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