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nikkichris612
I cannot stand her best friend.....
May 23, 2013 at 12:33 PM

 My 13 year old daughter has a "best friend" that she adores, almost worships.  We cannot stand when she hangs out with her.  Her friend has a nasty attitude, not that respectful and very bossy and demanding.  This brings out the WORST in my daughter so much so that you can tell exactly who she was with that day.  I have talked to her 100 times about parts of her friend's personality rubbing off on her but she doesn't quite absorb it.  It gets to the point where I want to tell her not to hang with this girl.  Not sure the best way to handle that for either one of us.  Any suggestions??

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  • MJP76
    by MJP76
    May 23, 2013 at 1:43 PM

    Yeah. I've always told my kids they can hang out with whomever they choose as long as their friends don't "rub off on them" I've told them that if I ever saw this happen, they wouldn't be able to hang out with that person any more. I've never had to "ground them" from their friends.

  • nikkichris612
    May 23, 2013 at 2:14 PM

     I said the same thing.  This is the first I have ever seen a friend negatively influence her.  I would rather her not spend time with her, but I also hate to put that rift between us.  But then I remind myself I am her mother, not her friend.  Ugh....teenagers.

    Quoting MJP76:

    Yeah. I've always told my kids they can hang out with whomever they choose as long as their friends don't "rub off on them" I've told them that if I ever saw this happen, they wouldn't be able to hang out with that person any more. I've never had to "ground them" from their friends.

     

  • luckysevenwow
    May 23, 2013 at 7:24 PM

    Keep reminding and keep talking, in most cases the kids do seperate, your DD will start to see it and get tired of it as she matures.

  • boys2men2soon
    May 23, 2013 at 7:58 PM

    Everytime she sounds like her BF, call her by that name.      My Mom used to do that to me if I started sounding like my sister...  she would say" Thank you, J___, but I thought I was talking to K___.

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