Moms with Teens

Baby1809
Angry teen-blames mom
April 3, 2013 at 12:16 PM
So Me & My Son Recently Had A Fight He Said I'm Going To Kill Myself Watch. During That Fight He Said It Twice. This Was Not The First Time.

About Two Weeks Ago We Were In Walmart An He Was Trying To Decide On A Face Wash. He Couldn't Make Up His Mind So He Got Mad Threw Them Down An SAid This Is Stupid I Don't Even Want To Change My Face Wash. He Then Walked Away An Said I Just Want To Commit Suicide.

I Then Called A Behavioral Health Center. He Has An Appointment Today. I Feel An Was Also Told By My Teenage Daughter When A Teen Talks Of Suicide You Don't Take That Lightly. He Is So Mad At Me, Saying This Is Stupid An He Can't Believe I Got Him Into This. I Just Told Him That's One Of The Problems Your Always Blaming Me You Need To Take Some Responsibility. I Don't Know What To Do Now I Don't Want Him Hating Me More.

Replies

  • Cafe GroupAdmin
    April 3, 2013 at 2:58 PM

    I'm glad you called and took the threats seriously.  Whether he meant them that way or not, he needs to understand that this is not something to take, or say, lightly and that threats will not get him what he wants.

    (((hug)))

  • gdiamante
    April 3, 2013 at 3:01 PM

    You did PRECISELY the right thing by calling the behavioral health center. At the moment, let the blame game roll off your back. Don't let "I hate you" or "it's your fault" sway you ion any way. The Mom Gig is not about being liked. It's about doing the right things for your kids. And when a teenager mentions suicide, seeing a specialist is the right thing.

  • MrsBLB
    by MrsBLB
    April 3, 2013 at 3:05 PM

    You did the right thing.  It's not always easy being a mom.  Hang in there and please keep us posted.  Hugs to you.

  • Baby1809
    April 4, 2013 at 11:09 PM
    So He Was A Little Upset After counselinG. But I Talked To Him An Explained It Was Nothing To Be Ashamed Of An That I Wanted Him To Just Feel Happy Like A Teen Should. We Talked Some More And Feel He Might Kind Of Understands Me. For Once I Feel A Little Hope. Thank You For Your Support.


    Quoting MrsBLB:

    You did the right thing.  It's not always easy being a mom.  Hang in there and please keep us posted.  Hugs to you.


  • luckysevenwow
    April 4, 2013 at 11:52 PM
    First why does every word start with a capital? It's really hard to read.

    Second, you did what you had to do, maybe he'll think twice before speaking.
  • Baby1809
    April 5, 2013 at 2:53 AM

    Because that is the way my phone typed it and I couldn't figure out how to change it. Thank you.


    Quoting luckysevenwow:

    First why does every word start with a capital? It's really hard to read.

    Second, you did what you had to do, maybe he'll think twice before speaking.



  • MrsBLB
    by MrsBLB
    April 7, 2013 at 10:59 PM

    How are things going now?

    Quoting Baby1809:

    So He Was A Little Upset After counselinG. But I Talked To Him An Explained It Was Nothing To Be Ashamed Of An That I Wanted Him To Just Feel Happy Like A Teen Should. We Talked Some More And Feel He Might Kind Of Understands Me. For Once I Feel A Little Hope. Thank You For Your Support.


    Quoting MrsBLB:

    You did the right thing.  It's not always easy being a mom.  Hang in there and please keep us posted.  Hugs to you.



  • Baby1809
    April 9, 2013 at 3:55 AM

    So he had another session today, and it seems to of went well.  When we left he said alot of good things were said today. So that sounds good. 

    Quoting MrsBLB:

    How are things going now?

    Quoting Baby1809:

    So He Was A Little Upset After counselinG. But I Talked To Him An Explained It Was Nothing To Be Ashamed Of An That I Wanted Him To Just Feel Happy Like A Teen Should. We Talked Some More And Feel He Might Kind Of Understands Me. For Once I Feel A Little Hope. Thank You For Your Support.


    Quoting MrsBLB:

    You did the right thing.  It's not always easy being a mom.  Hang in there and please keep us posted.  Hugs to you.




  • newlife2013
    April 9, 2013 at 4:31 AM
    Therapy is wonderful for teens, let's them feel heard if they feel no one understands them or being told what to do, even the smallest thing a parent says sometimes is so big to them, its a wonderful thing you did by going to therapy, hope this continues to improve your relationship. My middle son requires therapy for his issues. and after a dark time he is doing so well.
  • MrsBLB
    by MrsBLB
    April 9, 2013 at 1:39 PM

    That's great news.  I hope things continue on a positive track.

    Quoting Baby1809:

    So he had another session today, and it seems to of went well.  When we left he said alot of good things were said today. So that sounds good. 

    Quoting MrsBLB:

    How are things going now?

    Quoting Baby1809:

    So He Was A Little Upset After counselinG. But I Talked To Him An Explained It Was Nothing To Be Ashamed Of An That I Wanted Him To Just Feel Happy Like A Teen Should. We Talked Some More And Feel He Might Kind Of Understands Me. For Once I Feel A Little Hope. Thank You For Your Support.


    Quoting MrsBLB:

    You did the right thing.  It's not always easy being a mom.  Hang in there and please keep us posted.  Hugs to you.





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