Helping Your Child Through Bedwetting

redmamaof5
Seriously need help... my sons 11 1/2
December 9, 2010 at 11:48 AM

Hes had accidents nightly since he was 3, its not a big deal and ive never ever made it a big deal, i simply go to his room daily, remove the sheet and blankets bleach the waterproof cover and recover with clean sheets after the bleach has dried. i do this daily. my son was invited to two sleepovers which he declined to go to, or made me pick him up around 9ish. he has goodnights to take with him and we are very discreet in using them around his friends, they are basically used for sleep overs or in the camper since i dont have my laundry machine in there! but he hates to wear them, i dont blame him. he feels horrible about it. i have taken him to a few diff drs, and they each wanted to see his privates, well this is preventing my son from allowing me to take him in to another dr to try and get help.

help us. what do i do? what has worked with you?

we have tried:

the tiny pills (he got sick from them)

the inhaled medication (didnt work)

the bedalarms (hes such a heavy sleeper he would wet, and im waking him up he would go to the bathroom, then as soon as he was back asleep he would wet again)

 

Replies

  • Mamitamaria
    December 9, 2010 at 1:18 PM

    With my girls we tried EVERYTHING...nothing worked except time.

    My oldest (14)  has only been dry about a year or so. My youngest 3 still wet (12, 8 and 6).

  • wittner9803
    December 14, 2010 at 4:36 PM

     My daughter just turned 12...she still wets the bed. I have told her to do the kegels (sp?) excercise to strenghten her muscles. She has sleep overs with her firends and they have known about her bed wetting for years now. Her bladder isn't big enough or strong enough to hold it and she is a heavy sleeper also. Two of her uncles used to wet the bed until they were about 12 or 14 and so I am just waiting until she out grows it. Her Dr. has told her to "squeeze" out everything until nothing comes out. She is always in such a hurry, she is only in the brothroom for a few seconds, she possibly be getting all of it out.

    She uses goodnights, she is having a school camp in the spring and doesn't know what she should do about the bedwetting, I have told there is nothing I can do about it. I feel so bad for her, I have told her that she needs to do what her Dr. has told her to.

  • LoganAndKennedy
    December 24, 2010 at 7:40 PM
    My son is almost 6 and I worry about this in the future :\ Good to read your stories and any tips someone else may have. We have only tried letting him wet, no drinks after 6 pm and waking him in the middle of the night. All were un successful so we use the under jammers at night. My 4 yr old daughter on the other hand was completely daytime and night time potty trained since she was two years old :)
  • vivrick
    by vivrick
    December 25, 2010 at 11:41 AM

    I feel your pain, and don't have any advice for you. My son is 15 years old and he still wets the bed! He has gone to specialists and they say nothing is physically wrong with him. That it's behavioral. But my son doesn't do it on purpose. The pills have never worked for him, nor the inhaler. He is a very heavy sleeper, so the bed alarms didn't work either. We would hear the alarm clear across the house, but it didn't phase him. We have tried the wake him up routine, but that only works if we wake him up two and three times a night, and he still can't wake himself up. I am hoping someone will join this site who can help us!

  • redmamaof5
    December 26, 2010 at 6:11 PM

    wow i so hope this doesnt go on another 5 years. he is so upset about it. there are days when he wakes up dry adn smiles non stop and whispers in my ear as he walks through the kitchen "you dont need to wash my bedding". and he smiles and walks away! its bigger then if he were to have become a king! im curious, does it start overnight or slowely work its way up to being dry all the time? gradual or immediate?

  • wittner9803
    January 2, 2011 at 6:08 PM

     I'm not, my daughter very rarely has dry nights...she goes to the bathroom three times before she finally falls asleep. I really think she just doesn't empty all the way. We will have another talk with her pediatric at her next apt....we aren't going to do any of the pills or alarms, they didn't work with my brother.

    I am just glad she has good friends that understand, I do know she is worried about the week long camp she will have in the spring with her school.

  • amber0678
    February 8, 2011 at 11:46 AM

     hi ladies. my son is 11 1/2 and is a nightly wetter. we also tried everything imaginable, with zero success. this is not something they can control at all!!! After a lot of research, we decided to go with a program at the Enuresis TreatmentCenter (based in Michigan). The program bases its treatment on the belief that the bedwetting is a side effect (basically) of a deep sleep disorder. Those of you who mentioned how deeply your child sleeps will really be able to relate to this. The sleep pattern is completely different than a normal person! when the bedwetter falls asleep, they almost immediately drift right into deep sleep, and their brain is not able to recieve the message from their bladder that they need to go, so the bladder releases involuntarily, without the brain telling the body to wake up. Kegels are also a part of the program, to strengthen a weak "lock  muscle" after years of the bladder releasing. The main component of the program is the bedtime alarm. Now, I know some of you mentioned that you tried them and it didnt work, but I tell you, it's all in the way you use it. The alarm (whichever kind you use) isnt going to wake your child right away. You have to spend a great deal of time getting up to the alarm and waking your child as soon as you possibly can and the focus is making sure the child is AWAKE. Some of you may have kids who seem totally alert when woken in the night to go to the bathroom, then have no rcollection of the event in the morning. This is COMMON with deep sleepers! The point of the alarm is to train their brain to first respond to the sound of the alarm, and recognize it as a signal to wake up and go to the bathroom....i could go on and on and ON! lol, but really, you should go to the website and read the testimonials for yourself, call and talk to them....www.nobedwetting.com.....i will tell you now, it is very costly, and I wouldnt have been able to afford it if my dad hadnt offered to help us financially. we have been going through thte program for 8 months now. it is difficult to say the least, but we were at the point, and still are really, where we will do anything to help my son overcome this obstacle and all the emotional and physical stress it causes him...message me if you have any questions, i would be happy to give any more insight.

  • sleepingbeauty8
    March 1, 2011 at 11:20 PM

    My daughter has ADHD and possible ODD so seh doesn't sleep well. When she DOES fall asleep it's imidiate and very hard to wake her up. She takes melatonin to help her fall asleep and keep from waking up wide awake after only a couple of hours. So with this she is even harder to wake up. She's 6 and we've tried rewards, waking her up in the middle fo the nite, keeping her on a scedule all that stuff. The urologist said that the next step would be either the alarm, meds or bio feedback. I just want her to get past this. She wets almost nitely, and she hates it. She even has accidents during the day soemtimes because seh says she can't hold it.

  • Charmed7up
    March 25, 2011 at 12:46 PM

    Well, there are cloth diapers that look like boxers or briefs. You can put an insert in them if he wets a lot. You might ask him if he's willing to try a pair for those occasions. the bedwetting store online has them for about $26.

    On a side note, do you want to sell your alarm? :) I was thinking about getting one but can afford the full retail. Feel free to PM me if you still have it.

  • momofqxb
    April 22, 2011 at 10:12 AM
    I found that place online. You can either go there or they do it all over the phone, but there is no way we can afford it.

    My son is 7 1/2. He was pee trained by the time he was 2 1/2, but refused to poop on the potty till he was 4. Right after that we got visitation of my step-daughters and the oldest told him there was a lion under his bed, then the bed wetting started, never once had an accident till then. Now he wets the bed every night. I haven't tried any medication because my SO won't let him, they didn't work for his brother who wet the bed till 18. I say my son isn't his brother, but he seems to think its something he has to outgrow. I have used the plastic sheets,I have tried the water proof sheets, we have used pull ups, but he would wet so much that he wets through them. Since he's already destroyed his mattress, I have given up on trying to stop the bed from getting wet. When he stops wetting the bed we will get him a new one.

    But this morning, and its happened before, he woke up and just sat there in his wet clothes and wet bed and played. I heard him and thought he had changed clothes, but no when I got up he was still wearing his dirty clothes.
    The peeing the bed don't bother me, but what bothers me is that he will get up and not even bother changing, he'll just wear his pee clothes till I make him change.

Helping Your Child Through Bedwetting